The Importance of Praise From Parents
While it can be easy to focus on your child’s negative behaviors, taking for granted the things he is doing well can have negative consequences on his choices and self-image. By taking time to praise your child, you can encourage a strong parent-child bond as well as foster positive behaviors. Praise does not just need to be verbal, however. Hugs, high-fives and other signs of approval can be just as effective as telling a child that you are proud of him or her.
Praise is a simple yet effective discipline strategy that increases positive behaviors in children. By paying attention to positive behaviors and showing children that you notice when they are behaving, praise can motivate them to improve their behaviors and continue to be compliant.
Praise needs to be genuine, sincere and focused on your child's effort and hard work, not necessarily the outcome. For example, you should praise and encourage your child for going to basketball practice, working hard on their skills and facing new challenges, not just praise them when he/she wins the game.
Though praising your child is a vital part of fostering their confidence and self-esteem, the quality of the praise is more important than the quantity. Avoid praising your children's attributes ("You're so pretty and smart.") and instead focus on their actions ("You worked so hard on that project."). Encourage kids to try new, more difficult activities through praise, rather than rewarding and acknowledging them for the things that come easy.
By being genuine and specific with your praise and encouragement, you can help build your child's self-confidence while teaching him/her about the importance of effort and hard work. Try to eliminate constant negativity in your household and put the focus on all the wonderful, positive things your children are doing instead.
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