VALUES

Good values are one of the most important things you can teach your child. Your child won't learn good values in an hour, or in a classroom, but over the course of their childhood and throughout their lifetime. Here are some tips to help you teach your child good values.

 

v        Live a life that is worthy of emulation. Children learn by example; they learn what they live. Believe it or not, your child is watching you and how you react to life. Live in a way that portrays good values in order to teach them to your child.

 

v        Don't wait until high school. Children need to start learning good values when they are very small. This will carry them through their turbulent teen years.

 

v        If you believe what you profess to believe in, LIVE IT!. Teach your child the value of your beliefs. If you do not prescribe to any particular faith, take time to talk to your children about how living with good values makes the world better for everyone.

 

v        Pay attention to what your children are watching, reading, and looking at. Television, magazines and the Internet offer many examples of both good and poor values. Talk to your kids about what they see. If someone on TV is exemplifying poor values and reaping the repercussions of those values, point that out to your child.

 

v        Look for opportunities to teach good values to your children. Praise them for behaviors that show good values. When you and your child witness someone exemplifying good values, ask your child why they believe that person is acting in a good manner. No matter how small your child is, their insights may surprise, amaze, and please you!

Taken from  How to Teach Your Child Good Values | eHow.com http://www.ehow.com/how_2283410_teach-child-good-values.html#ixzz2jNxgTEFk

Discovery School offers a unique oportunity for children to make friends from all over the world. This is an article worth reading by every parent who has a child in elementary school.

Nobody Likes Me: Helping Children Make Friends

By Lisa M. Cope

It’s a heartbreaker. Your child comes home from school one day and says he/she doesn’t have any friends and that nobody likes him/her - the dreaded words no parent wants to hear. You’ve been there; you know how cruel it can be on the playground and how quickly friendships seem to come and go throughout life. You want to wrap up your child and protect him/her from the world and most of all, you want to ensure that he/she has plenty of friends.

As much as you’d like to step in, you simply can’t make friends for him/her. You can, however, give him/her the tools he needs to be social and to be a good friend. Every child is born with an innate need to attach or be in a relationship, but how he/she goes about forming those relationships depends largely on his temperament. Children can start to develop real friendships around the age of four or five. When everything goes smoothly, it can be exhilarating and great. But when you see your child hitting some bumps in the road to having his/her own “B.F.F.,” you can help.

According to Denise Salin, a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Parent Educator, you don’t want to push. “Some children, especially younger elementary school age ones, need help developing social skills such as empathy, problem-solving, negotiating, cooperation and communication skills” before they are comfortable making friends. “If an elementary aged child does not seem to want to make friends, it’s important to try and get an understanding of what may be going on.”

To support the development of friendships in your child’s life, try some of these techniques:

• Offer a variety of opportunities for play and socializing. Host friends over for play dates or lunch. See if you can participate in a carpool and sign-up your child for group activities such as art, drama or dance. Exposing him/her to different areas of play will help him learn to socialize. “Giving children lots of unstructured time to play is important because they learn the social skills they need so they can keep playing and have fun,” says Salin. Additionally, you can include your child when talking to people out of his normal range of peers. Take him/her to visit a neighbor, or bring him/her along to the dry cleaner. The more he/she is exposed to interacting with all kinds of people, the more he/she will learn to do the same.

• Provide support to your child. This may seem easy, but how often do you really listen to your child? Pick up on the social cues by listening to what he/she says happened on the playground. Support your child’s choice of friends and welcome them to your home. Try getting to know his/her friends and their parents.

• Stay balanced when things are hard. Go ahead and empathize with your child’s pain, but keep it in perspective. Making friends is a lifelong process and will of course have its ups and downs. Pain, unfortunately, is a part of it. According to Salin, “all children will experience some form of ‘normal’ social pain in their friendships. We can support them by listening and acknowledging their feelings.” Talk about your concerns with other adults who can support you -- such as a coach, teacher, friend, or family member. You never want to share your anxiety with your child, so find someone who can help offer insight about your child or consult with professionals.

• Perhaps most importantly, you need to show your child how to be a good friend and make friends. The best way is to model the behavior you would like to see. According to Boys Town Pediatrics, there are several ways you can accomplish this at home:

1. Help your child realize his own strengths.
2. Have a sense of humor about yourself and your shortcomings.
3. Listen to your child without criticism.
4. Be kind, give compliments, wave to a friend, open the door for someone.
5. Be understanding of what others are going through by showing empathy.
6. Don’t complain. Instead, teach your children to accept what can't be changed by working hard to change the things that can.

Learning to build friendships is one of the ways children develop into well-rounded, emotionally healthy human beings. “I’ve worked with many adults who have achieved tremendous success in terms of college, career, money, etc. and yet they are sad and empty because they have great difficulty in their relationships,” says Salin. By giving your child the skills he needs to be confident and compassionate, you increase the likelihood that friends will eagerly come into his life. And friends will give his life a richness and happiness he will always treasure.

Taken from http://www.education.com/magazine/article/Helping_Children_Make_Friends/